The future of Motherhood

There was a book I read and it was made into a series on Hulu. The book is The Handmaids tale. If you enjoy dystopian books about the future with just a hint of hope sprinkled in I suggest reading it. I liked the book and so did my daughter. My sister watched the Hulu series and loved it. The Handmaids tale is the diary of a handmaid in the city of Gilead in the distant kind of near distant future. Of course there was a war and the side that won is ultra religious draconian and a twist most of the women are infertile. So what does the ruling class do? The take the few fertile women and make them handmaids. The handmaids job is to bear the children for the ruling class.

The book was published in 1985 and the Hulu adaptation happened in 2017 and the fifth season is coming soon. The book left a lot to the imagination at the end and I have never seen the show (it is on my to watch list though). As soon as the show premiered it seemed like parallels were made between women’s reproductive health rights (access to safe abortions) and the show.

Abortion has a long and weird history in the United States. There is a book about it’s history named “When Abortion was a crime”. I cannot dedicate enough time to go through the history of abortion in the United States but of course I will try….

Lets see up until about 1880 abortions were legal in most of the United States and not considered a sin by the Catholic church, if they were performed before the quickening, the Baptists in the United States did not consider abortion a sin until about 1979. Abortion was made illegal in the United States because of how dangerous it was in 1880 for the woman. In 1973 Abortion was decriminalized in the United States. Currently states are finding ways to restrict women from having abortions and seem to be working to once again criminalize abortion. The reason for the criminalization of abortion is not to protect the women’s health but to protect the right of the unborn or the fetus to become born or alive.

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What does it mean to be alive? That is a question that religious scholars have and are still arguing over now. Is it as black and white as someone is alive when they are born? The people arguing against women’s rights do not think so.

I was a young child and me and my sisters had a hamster 2 hamsters. The hamsters were male and female and had a litter of pups. There were four kids in the house the hamster family and I think we had a cat and a dog too. (not sure about the cat) The mother hamster ate all her pups! I was traumatized and for the longest time never understood what happened. Hamsters do not always eat their young but when they do it is usually because they are either stressed, under feed, feel that there young are unsafe, or the scent of the young has changed.

If you have a hamster and it has pups.. Be sure to increase the hamsters diet remove any stress to the animal, keep its habitat clean, and avoid handling the cute little pups, otherwise your child could be traumatized.

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I was born because my mother choose to bare me. Yeah I feel a little sick thinking about it but its true. If my mother choose not to be a mom I would not be here. No matter what we think a woman should have the right to decide if she is a mother or not full stop.

Women’ s rights are human rights and no matter what your or my religious leaders tell me this year about when life begins it will always be wrong to tell a woman whether she should be a mother or not.

Instead of working to limit women’s rights this March why not help women who are mothers? Donate time and money to charities that are working to keep women safe, clean, and healthy. Dedicate your time to protecting the living.

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Add in a P

Rhianna is an amazing artist, entrepreneur and mogul. She has grown her business at a meteoric rate and it has taken hard work, ambition, a god-like drive and some luck. Being god-like, specifically the omnipresent part, can be overwhelming. The Fenty empire is sprawling and has a lot of moving parts, makeup, clothes and tourism to name a few. Rhianna has been involved and worked in all of it.

You and I also having many parts in our mini empires our commonwealths if you will. But our common wealth’s have many moving parts to and we have to manage. Some of us are caretakers for people other than ourselves. Wake up, wake up loved ones, prepare for commute to work, answer emails, answer phone calls, do daily work, take care of the loved ones, commute home, cook dinner, clean, rinse repeat. Just typing the simple day gave me anxiety..

Mental health is health. I know it seems obvious but it isn’t always for us. We see and feel a broken arm and get that treated but sometimes life can be overwhelming. Just typing a few of the elements for a regular day made me feel overwhelmed. Always on, always overwhelmed can take a toll on our mental health and cause serious harm.

Rhianna puts a P in her calendar and takes that time for herself. Here, is a pretty good article about why and when she started doing this.

You cannot count on anyone else to take care of and know you like you will and do. Being self aware comes through quiet meditation and focus but once you reach this self awareness listen and take action before you harm yourself.

Put in that P and unwind. Go to the beach the park the mall, spend time by yourself or with loved ones. Once you know yourself you will be able to take care of yourself.