Tag: loss

Killing time

John Corrigan

Trauma is a rough thing for everyone. When trauma happens to a group like a family the survivors of the trauma face a lifetime of guilt.

There is a new tv series that I am in love with named Silo. The tv series is based on the book trilogy named WOOL and if you are not watching this you should start great series. In the show Silo a young girl lost her mother, and little brother. The girl escapes her life with her father to work as a mechanic. Her father finds her and asks if she is happy

Are you happy here? I start work hours before the lights cycle to day. I eat lunch standing up. And if I’m lucky, I get a half-an-hour break. Every night, I am exhausted. I fall asleep before my head hits the cot. Are you happy, Juliette? I’m happy I really don’t have time to think about Mom or Jacob.

Silo Season 1 episode 4

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Work is often a way to cope and deal with trauma for many people however it does not seem to be a healthy way to deal with trauma or loss. Often times the best thing to do is get professional help when dealing with trauma or loss. The emotions surrounding trauma and loss are huge and life changing and shouldn’t be avoided or faced alone. There is no shame in reaching out for help.

Facing our feelings head on is scary but it is also healthy and good for a our mental health. Avoidance makes the trauma and loss worse and can do damage to our mental health.

Facing our demons is not easy but it is possible.

If you or someone you know needs help and live in the United States they can reach out to

https://friendsforsurvival.org/

or call

(916) 392-0664

Toll Free: (800) 646-7322

The most important thing is that they/you get help and in a healthy way work through this.

What to do?

John Corrigan

I enjoy playing chess. I am not as good a chess player as I would like to be and I refuse to publish my ELO rating for my one blog reader to make fun of me but I enjoy the game.

My middle school friend taught me how to play and I played for a club in middle and high school. While playing with the club I meet a lot of interesting players of all kinds of skill levels. My wins, as they are now, playing online (chess 360) where hard fought and few and far between. One day in the library after school while feeling a little discouraged an older player let me know that losing was actually better than winning. I thought he was an idiot for years, but now I understand.

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When you play a chess game and loose there is a lot to learn. You see the mistakes you made and the setups your opponent created and you can apply what you have learned to your next game. When you win you feel great but learning is a little harder. A win needs to be scrutinized more than analyzed to learn a lesson.

Anything worth doing is going to be hard and you will have to loose a lot of battles in life but the losing can actually be better than winning sometimes and losing almost always leads to winning.

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The two most imprtant things to remember is that you should never give up and you should always learn something. If you have not given up and you have learned something I would argue that your loss is actually a win.