17th really man…

It has been 100 years since women have gotten the right to vote in the United States of America and there is still dramatic inequality when it comes to women’s and men’s rights in the United States of America. Right now The United States is ranked 17th for women. Just all around there are 16 more countries, all of which have less money, influence and power than the United States and yet women are treated better there.

It’s not the money, or military might that makes a nation good or bad, it is the way the nation treats its citizens.

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A Nation should not be judged by how it treats its highest citizens, but it’s lowest ones

Nelson Mandela, Long Walk to Freedom

The United States has one of the worst maternal mortality rates in the world, if the anti choice movement takes away the right to abortion it can be assumed that this rate will grow even larger. In 2020 17 women died for every 100 000 births. To compare the UK was 7, New Zealand was 3, and South Korea was 2.8. In the top ten richest countries in the world the United States has the highest rate for killing women while they are giving birth.

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1 out of six women in the United States have been raped in their lifetime. Canada, New Zealand, Sweden, Denmark are among the top ten safest places for women, the United States is the tenth least safe country in the world for women.

Top ten safest countries for women

Top ten most dangerous countries for women

  • India
  • Afghanistan
  • Syria
  • Somalia
  • Saudi Arabia
  • Pakistan
  • Democratic Republic of Congo
  • Yemen
  • Nigeria
  • United States

After the civil war came the reconstruction period in the United States and that was the beginning of Affirmative Action. Affirmative Action is a plan to address racism in the United States. The program was working well and getting better until somethings happened in the supreme court and the White House.

In 1978 the supreme court ruled that quotas for measuring affirmative action were unconstitutional, in 2017the Whitehouse advocated for using “ace-neutral alternatives” for admitting students.

Affirmative Action was moving and had a way to measure it’s success however there have been some bumps in the road. Affirmative action also benefits women when it is executed and protected.

The playing field is not equal women and minorities start and often stay at lower levels than white men. To argue against this is to argue against the numbers and facts.

To make the United States better for women we must treat women with more that respect. We must bring women to the level of the white male in all facets of life. In the home, the workplace. the religions, and the government.

Women are 51% of the population but only make up 20% of representation in the government. That has to be fixed and it starts with our votes. The majority of Americans did vote for a women president however the antiquated broken system that the United States uses to count votes made it so that the unpopular male won. So we are getting there now we just need to look at the rules that have been created by the white males to keep white males in power. Its a lot of work but it can and will be done and it needs to start with men. We need to show women more respect than we do our fellow men. We need to be sure that we always consider representation when we are hiring, and we need to be aware of our training and unconscious bias against women.

Instead of scoffing at this post and ones like it perhaps consider your own actions or inactions. I certainly am going to try. I know that we can do better than 17th place!!

Matri who what??

It is day 4 of Women’s History Month and its seems appropriate to address the Matriarchy, or the lack thereof in the United States. A matriarchy is a system of government in which women women rule. Currently there are 6 functioning matriarchies today, in contrast there are 195 governments in the world and all but the 6 are in practice patriarchies. Some may take this moment to argue against the previous statement and if you are among the some than you are part of the problem.

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See, I put the word in practice there and I would challenge you to show me one government that has equal representation for men and women. It doesn’t exist (if it does please comment on this post so that we can celebrate the steps forward).

When confronted with the reality of the patriarchy in the United States and how it has shaped the treatment of women I have to ask myself why and how. Why do we think a government that does not accurately represent women is ok and how did this happen in a nation where we hold fair democratic elections for office?

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It happened because few women run for political office and few people vote for the women that run. Teach your daughters, and nieces that they are equals. Support your sisters and wives while they are trying to break through the glass ceiling and reject the gender stereo types. There is nothing wrong with a father who stays home with the children.


It happens because men in power implement rules while in power to stay in power. Fight and vote for politicians that work towards breaking the gender stereotype endorsing laws. Did you know that martial rape wasn’t illegal in all 50 states until 1993! In some states even though illegal the penalty is a little more than a slap on the wrist and through many legal loopholes men can rape their wives without punishment! There are so many laws no that restrict womens reproductive rights now as well, now if you are in the camp of “abortion is not a reproductive right” (it is actually see yesterdays post), I would challenge you to speak with a woman under the age of thirty who has tried in the United States to have surgery to prevent child birth. Here is a list of 11 laws that still exist;

1. In Massachusetts, you can’t advertise birth control through the mail.

2. Women cannot show ‘too much cleavage’ in Cleveland.

3. In North Carolina, a woman cannot withdraw consent and call subsequent actions rape.

4. Women cannot wear sleeveless tops or dresses to Congress.

5. In this California town, a woman must have a permit to wear shoes with heels that are over two inches high and less than one square inch thick.  

6. An unmarried woman in Florida cannot parachute on a Sunday, or else she will be fined or arrested.

7. Child marriage is still legal

8. A man cannot seduce a corrupt, single woman in Michigan.

9. Rapists have parental rights in seven states.

10. In Michigan, a wife must obtain her husband’s permission before she can cut her hair.

11. Women can’t wear pants in Tucson, Arizona.

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Teaching and voting is serious business and the United States of America is from form equal and definitely a practicing patriarchy. When you teach the children in your life girl or boy please teach them that gender does not determine what they do and how they do it. When we vote lets all make a conscious effort to vote for someone who will fight or true equality and if we can vote for a woman to balance out representation. If you are a woman in the United States consider running for office and enacting some real change!

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Do you Really?

Yesterday was the first day of Women’s History Month and it came and went without a mention of it on my blog. Shame on me!

Women’s History Month is all about celebrating the role women have played in the history of American History. Throughout the history of the United States of America women have had and continue to have fewer rights and opportunities than men. Even though women, as Ruth Bader Ginsburg put it, have had the foot of men on their necks, they have risen and done great things for the United States of America as well as the world.


Ruth Bader Ginsburg

Imagine what women could do if men work to encourage and support them! Climate change solved! Social injustice addressed. Inflation gone.

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Some men maybe reading this and thinking “of course I support women, but do you really? Prove it show me what you have done to prove that you support women.

That is what I am doing now with my own self talk. Every time I make a statement I am a good person or I support women I am going to prove it to myself through action and there seems to be no better time to prove this to ourselves than women’s history month.

Do you support women? Prove it. Donate to a woman’s charity today. Treat your daughters the same way you treat your sons, nieces the same way you treat your nephew. Is you son your little prince?

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In 2016 Hilary Clinton ran for president of the United States and she won the popular vote by 2.9 million votes. The majority of the United States that voted for president proved that they support women with their vote! That is awesome! Joe Biden just announced that he is picking Ketanji Brown Jackson to be a justice on the supreme court. Have you done any hiring? Did you consider how women are represented in your organization at all levels? You should. Women represent 51 % of the population of the United States.

It is easy to fall back into the historic role of putting our foot on women’s neck so we must prove to ourselves over and over again that we support women. Ask and prove this to yourself often and at least once a day this month